Get Out Of Your Own Way
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How many of us think about situations and prepare the desired outcome in our minds? Answer: Everyone.
We can spend a great deal of time planning and preparing for what we want to happen. With all the work we put into this desired outcome, it has to be THAT WAY, right? I am here to tell you that it really isn’t that easy most of the time. Those pesky little bends in the road can throw us off track and we are left facing a different direction. Then comes frustration, anger, sadness and so on. These host of emotions are natural reactions when we are truly attached to that original desired outcome.
So what is it REALLY that we are attached to. Is it the outcome? Or is it the comfort of being prepared? Maybe it is a little of both. I have seen this happen so many times and wonder how differently one might react when things don’t go as planned if they weren’t so hell bent on it being a certain way. What are they preventing themselves from experiencing or learning because they are attached to what is comfortable?
Accepting what is and letting go of what it should have been is a courageous place to be in. I look back on situations that didn’t end up the way I had expected and realized that I was seriously glad they didn’t because the outcome was so much better. I will admit, I still meet change with resistance and surprise but I remind myself that I don’t know everything and embrace discomfort because I know it has the potential to grow me as a person. Being in challenging situations forces us to look at things in a different perspective. Image the ah-ha moments that could be had when you step out of your comfort zone.
How do you deal with surprises?
About Jennifer Adams:
Heal, fuel, feed, repeat…
Here I am taking the journey from corporate life to purpose life. I have climbed the ladder of life in parenting, work and self-development. What once was a woman who lived the “should” life, I became inspired to live the purposeful life. Always finding myself being the one people called for help or answers, I decided to pursue it further. With a suitcase of wisdom and carry-on of wit, I am traveling to the land of passion. I rock at bringing out the inner awesome in others. It was always there in various stages and capacities but I pushed it aside to do what I was “supposed” to do. The gates have opened and I am off…to chase the dream of breaking down the walls and limiting beliefs that keep others from truly showing up for this thing called life.
A little background about me:
From single mom at 18 to Vice President of a Corporation at 38, I spent 20 years healing, fueling, and feeding. I dropped out of high school 2 months before graduation, pregnant, and got my GED. I went to work full time at various jobs always working to make ends meet. I have what I like to call a “Custom College Degree.” I took more classes than what it took to get a degree, just not in the traditional curriculum determined by the schools. I have accounting, business and information technology education that I needed to get the job done, do it well and move up. It worked! I am now married with two awesome kids and I have no regrets. I love working out and living a healthy life style. My dream is to have a log house on the water with tons of property for flowers, vegetables and English Bulldogs and you know what, I WILL have it! Stay Tuned….