Life Goes On, It Has To
Let me begin by saying I recently had a conversation with a dear friend of mine who is a very successful woman in the international beauty industry. She serves as my inspiration for this piece.
Full disclosure, I make no claim to having any formal training as a therapist or life coach. I just have something to say. If I am any good at this, I’ve got your attention. So, if you would be so kind, I would like to share a little of what I came to learn and what I think I know.
Writing is cathartic. You deep-dive into a subject and wind up having a better understanding of yourself in that journey. Sometimes, you can convey your story and help someone else understand themselves a little better, too.
A long time ago, I was given some sage advice by an accomplished journalist. He said, “Above all, write about what you know.” In that same vain, I came to understand how imperative the presentation is. Be entertaining and it will give people a reason to stay engaged. This philosophy also works for me in my musical performances.
Unless you’re living in a vacuum, you know that right now the world is in turmoil.
It is unnerving.
You cannot turn on the news or look at social media without seeing the devastation and uncertainty that is happening around the world.
COVID is still affecting us and although we are desperately trying to get back to some semblance of normalcy, in my opinion, we must remain cautious and above all, respectful.
Although I consider myself more spiritual than religious, I am praying now more than I ever have. For someone like me who’s been described as an empath (oh, how I hate labels), it is challenging, at best, to carry on my daily routine and not to be affected by what I like to describe as the “peripheral world”. To me, that means although I may not have the situation directly in front of me, it is constantly within my sight all around me. (I believe this would explain the very reason why I chose this subject to write about and not my usual fun subject matter.) One thing I know for certain is that I am not alone in feeling guilty going about my daily routine. Here I am going off to an exercise class while somewhere across the globe, a young father is saying goodbye to his family as he is goes off to war. In fact, my friend and I may be worlds apart, but we both feel the same way. It’s hard not to be affected by events happening right now.
Which brings me to this.
I have always considered myself a “people person”, whatever that means. (I think this means that I am a nice person and I get along with most everyone.) I also like to observe people and I find myself oftentimes fascinated by human nature. I am lucky to have friends from all walks of life. What they all have in common, among other things, is a deep desire to carry on and live their best lives.
Now more than ever, it is essential.
We are living with this new normal. We must continue to do our daily rituals, meet our friends and enjoy our lives. Yes, it is tragic to see what is happening in the world and we can help support charitable organizations.
At the same time, it is important – and here’s the part where I emphasize that I am not a therapist – it is very okay that we carry on status quo. What I am about to proclaim is what I believe with absolute conviction. Those of us in the business of entertaining have the ability and the responsibility to take you out of your head and offer respite in a world gone crazy, albeit for a little while. Whether it is the theater, a concert, a theme park, a meal in a restaurant, a tv show, a movie or a book, the escape to just enjoy a moment is essential. We need each other and we need to be ok with having a joyful experience. We need to be less judgmental, and more understanding. And we need to let go of the guilt. (Admittedly, I am working on that myself.) Everyone is dealing with something. Every single one of us. Life goes on. It has to.
On that note, I thank you for giving me a moment of your time and if I’ve given you something to think about, even better. It’s a fact that you can feel bad and good at the same time and I’m here to tell you it’s okay. Life is short and oh so fragile. Enjoy yourself. Carpe Diem! Perhaps I’ll even see you at one of my shows!
Photos from Sheri Nadelman